DEAR JANE: I thought I discovered the secret to an amazing sex life... but now my trick has ruined everything

Dear Jane,

My boyfriend and I have been together for almost a year and in February we celebrated our first Valentine's Day.

We decided not to get each other gifts to save money, but I still wanted to do something special for him.

My boyfriend loves having sex with me when my legs are clean-shaven because of how soft my skin is, so I decided to shave my entire body to surprise him.

I don't usually bother shaving around my bikini line because it's so much effort and I get really bad ingrown hairs — plus I have very sensitive skin. So this was only supposed to be a one-off treat for him.

As I suspected, my boyfriend was thrilled when I undressed and showed him my bare body. He couldn't get enough, and let's just say he was very generous.

My boyfriend said it was the best sex he's ever had.

Now I am facing a huge predicament.

Dear Jane: I thought I discovered the secret to an amazing sex life...but now my trick has ruined everything

I want to continue having great sex and pleasing my boyfriend, but I physically cannot keep shaving. I keep breaking out in rashes and the ingrown hairs are getting out of control.

I considered getting a Brazilian wax, but the last time I did that was in high school. It took a whole hour and was so painful, I sobbed and screamed the entire time. Not worth it.

The only other option would be laser hair removal, but it is so expensive. It would cost thousands of dollars and take months to complete.

I do have some savings that I could use to pay for the treatments, but I was going to use that cash to take a month off work and do some traveling. Should I spend my savings on hair removal instead? After all, it would make my boyfriend so happy and improve my sex life forever.

From,

Prickly Problems

International best-selling author Jane Green offers sage advice on readers' burning issues in her agony aunt column

Dear Prickly Problems, 

Whilst I believe compromise is essential in every relationship, your willingness to use your hard-earned cash to do something to please your boyfriend rather than yourself concerns me.

If you loved your body hairless, I would applaud your decision to laser away your stubble. But to spend a significant amount of money on something that you don't really care about just to make your boyfriend happy is a very large price to pay.

I'm wondering what other decisions you are making to please your boyfriend? I ask this only because there are so many women who are raised to be people-pleasers. 

The problem with living to please other people is that it doesn't make us happy. In fact, subjugating our own wants and needs to bring someone else joy will only make us resent that person in the long run.

I want you to pause and think about this: would you rather take a month off work and go traveling, or would you rather spend months undergoing time-consuming (and painful — trust me on this) laser hair removal? 

Forget about what your boyfriend wants, what do you want? 

I suspect you have your answer. And please know that you deserve to follow your heart and do things that make you happy.