The article presents a detailed transcript of text messages exchanged between Karen Read and John O'Keefe on January 28th, the day of his death. The messages reveal a tense and strained relationship, with multiple arguments and disagreements leading up to the end of their communication.
The texts show a pattern of Read attempting to reconcile and communicate, while O'Keefe appears increasingly withdrawn and unresponsive. The last texts depict a final attempt to meet, however they are unable to resolve their disagreements.
The presented text messages serve as evidence in Karen Read's murder retrial, supporting the prosecution's assertion of a strained relationship between the two individuals. The article's conclusion states that more testimony is to follow.
Read’s first trial ended in a hung jury and she remains free on bail. Prosecutors say her relationship with O’Keefe was strained at the time of his death, and the tense, at times angry text messages introduced Thursday were meant to bolster that assertion.
Below is a transcript of the texts, which began at 9:40 a.m. on Jan. 28.
Read to O’Keefe — “You have really hurt me this time.”
O’Keefe to Read, 10:02 a.m. — I’m sorry. This has been an issue with me for eight years. It physically hurts me to see everyone else in their life do things for them, and I’m forced to always be the bad guy.”
[O’Keefe had taken in his niece and nephew to raise after both their parents died.]
Read to O’Keefe, 10:09 a.m. — “I’m not the same as everyone else. Most of the time, I try to do what is healthy/smart for them. More importantly, I try to support you and what you need. You just lashed out at me and said terrible things. I don’t know how you’ve gotten to this point with me when I’m just trying my hardest. You made your point and continue to beat me down. I have a lot going on too. Physically I am falling apart, and trying to get answers and help.”
[Read suffers from Multiple sclerosis].
Read to O’Keefe, 10:10 a.m. — “I am just your girlfriend. I am not a perfect parent. I am trying very hard and sometimes treat them — nothing like I used to.”
[O’Keefe at times would get angry at Read for gifts and other things she bought the children, such as takeout from Dunkin’, according to records and prior testimony.]
O’Keefe to Read, 10:14 a.m. — “I know. I’m sorry for lashing out. I’m just hurting and struggle daily with them. Always feel like I’m failing at this parenting thing. I wasn’t built for this.”
Read to O’Keefe, 12:21 p.m. — “[Your niece] isn’t perfect, but everything wonderful about her is because of you.”
[O’Keefe sends emoji].
Read to O’Keefe, 12:22 p.m. — “It’s true. I know she’s her mother’s daughter. But she wouldn’t be so bright and successful if she lived with anyone else.”
Read to O’Keefe, 12:31 p.m. — “Wow, Kristen just sent two back to back messages to not lose your faith in the kids.”
Read to O’Keefe, 12:31 p.m — “Or yourself.”
[O’Keefe sends emojis].
Read to O’Keefe, 12:33 p.m. — “No [two emojis]. Life can pick you up sometimes. Please be happy with them and put away your frustrations for the rest of the day, and be so proud of yourself JJ.”
O’Keefe to Read, 1:18 p.m. — “That’s what bothers me more than anything. Should have sent Peg’s or Sara’s W2s. We’re all equal guardians.”
[It wasn’t clear what he was referring to, though his niece had just been accepted to a Catholic school; private schools frequently request financial information from parents and guardians to determine aid packages].
Read to O’Keefe, 1:21 p.m. — “Maybe you can call someone.”
O’Keefe to Read, 1:46 p.m. — “Like who?”
O’Keefe to Read, 1:47 p.m. — “What time are you coming here?”
[O’Keefe sends an emoji].
Read to O’Keefe, 2:06 p.m. — “I don’t know what time. Feel kind of out of it. Just trying to clear my head.”
O’Keefe to Read, 2:06 p.m. — “OK.”
Read to O’Keefe, 2:06 p.m. — “Text me when you guys settle in later.”
O’Keefe to Read, 2:06 p.m. — “Sure.”
Read to O’Keefe, 2:16 p.m. — “Feel pretty [expletive] about how this morning went down. I know you said sorry but it really stung. especially when I’ve been trying pretty hard lately. I feel like a loser turning around, just coming back over after everything you said.”
O’Keefe to Read, 2:17 p.m. — “I’m not sure what else you want me to do. I said I’m sorry and I was out of line. If you prefer to stay home I totally get it.”
Read to O’Keefe, 2:17 p.m. — “Things in my own life have been difficult too, you know.”
O’Keefe to Read, 2:17 p.m. — “I know.”
[The two then had multiple brief phone calls, but O’Keefe rejected another call she made at 2:24 p.m.]
Read to O’Keefe, 2:25 p.m. — “Tell me if you’re interested in someone else. Can’t think of any other reason you’ve been like this.”
O’Keefe to Read, 2:25 p.m. — “Nope.”
O’Keefe to Read, 2:26 p.m. — “Things haven’t been great between us for a while. Ever consider that?”
[O’Keefe then rejected another call from Read.]
O’Keefe to Read, 2:29 p.m. — “Kids are here. Not in the mood to talk.”
Read to O’Keefe, 2:29 p.m. — “So you’re not into it anymore. That’s fine, but I don’t want to keep trying and you keep treating me like this.”
Read to O’Keefe, 2:29 p.m. — “I’m trying to hug and kiss you this morning, and you whack me in the face with a pillow.”
Read to O’Keefe, 2:30 p.m. — “Last night, you’re basically like, yeah what about [it] when we talk about the future. So why don’t you just admit you’re not into [it] so much anymore?”
O’Keefe to Read, 2:30 p.m. — “Not how it went down, but okay.”
Read to O’Keefe, 2:30 p.m. — “Can you please admit your head is out of the game with us?”
O’Keefe to Read, 2:32 p.m. “Sick of always arguing and fighting. It’s been weekly for several months now. So yeah, I’m not as quick to jump back into being lovey dovey as you apparently.”
[O’Keefe later rejected another call from Read.]
O’Keefe to Read, 2:32 p.m. — “OMG stop calling.”
Read to O’Keefe, 2:32 p.m. — “Then why would you start with me this morning?”
Read to O’Keefe, 2:33 p.m. — “You’re setting me up to fail.”
Read to O’Keefe, 2:33 p.m. — “You start a number of fights from your end.”
O’Keefe to Read, 2:33 p.m. — “I’ve explained it a few times already. Not doing it again.”
Read to O’Keefe, 2:33 p.m. — “So you’re not into this anymore.”
O’Keefe to Read, 2:34 p.m. — “Not into fighting all the time, correct.”
Read to O’Keefe, 2:34 p.m. — “If you tell me you’re interested in someone else, you will never hear from me again. You can have all the space in the world.”
[O’Keefe sends an emoji].
Read to O’Keefe, 2:34 p.m.— “Then stop starting with me.”
[O’Keefe then rejected another call from Read.]
O’Keefe to Read, 2:34 p.m. — “I’m not answering. Stop calling.”
Read to O’Keefe, 2:34 p.m. — “Can you please answer after how you treated me earlier?”
[O’Keefe rejected another call from Read.]
O’Keefe to Read, 2:35 p.m. — “[My niece] is right here.”
Read to O’Keefe, 2:35 p.m. — “You start a rager with me out of nowhere, and then tell me you’re sick of fighting with me.”
Read to O’Keefe, 2:38 p.m. — “I’m going to grab a drink in a bit.”
[O’Keefe rejected another call from Read.]
Read to O’Keefe, 2:38 p.m. — “Can you please answer?”
O’Keefe to Read, 2:39 p.m. — “No Karen. Not sure why you need to announce that you’re grabbing a drink. But have fun.”
Read to O’Keefe, 2:40 p.m. — “Seeing if you want to meet me later.”
Read to O’Keefe, 2:40 p.m. — “Can you please call me?”
O’Keefe to Read, 2:40 p.m. — “Have to take them to the doctor. He has practice.”
Read to O’Keefe, 2:41 p.m. — “Yeah, five minutes.”
[O’Keefe rejected another call from Read.]
O’Keefe to Read, 2:43 p.m. — “My father just walked in.”
Read to O’Keefe, 2:44 p.m. — “OK, can you please call me for two minutes?”
O’Keefe to Read, 2:44 p.m. — “Not right now.”
Read to O’Keefe, 2:44 p.m. — “I’m there when anyone else needs me.”
[O’Keefe rejected another call from Read.]
Read to O’Keefe, 2:46 p.m. — “Yes John, you gave me utter grief this morning. I’d like you to call me for a [minute].”
Read to O’Keefe, 2:47 p.m. — “I’ve been trying to get over the hump with [this] arguing, and now you tell me you’re not into doing things. And you don’t want to fight weekly but fly off the handle at 8 a.m. with me like you’re setting me up to fail.”
Read to O’Keefe, 2:48 p.m. — “I’ve been dealing with my own personal crisis over things I have zero control over. I’d like to lean on you too sometimes. Instead I just hear everything I’ve done wrong.”
Read to O’Keefe, 2:54 p.m. — “You seriously cannot pick up the phone for two seconds.”
Read to O’Keefe, 3:08 p.m. — “Why don’t you meet me at Hillside at 4:30/5?”
[O’Keefe sent an emoji.]
Read to O’Keefe, 3:10 p.m. — “Or whenever you get eveyone settled.”
O’Keefe to Read, 3:36 p.m. — “Like I said, doctor now and he has practice til 6. If you want to go start drinking then go for it.”
Read to O’Keefe, 3:36 p.m. — “I didn’t know the times of his practice.”
Read to O’Keefe, 3:37 p.m. — “I just want to give space at the house without me there. So rather meet you out than meet at the house.”
O’Keefe to Read, 3:37 p.m. — “Yeah, well now there’s a 72-year-old taking up shop on my couch.”
Read to O’Keefe, 3:37 p.m. — “Yeah that too.”
Read to O’Keefe, 3:38 p.m. — “Is he going to Colin’s?”
O’Keefe to Read, 3:38 p.m. — “Not tonight.”
Read to O’Keefe, 3:39 p.m. — “So do you plan on going out tonight?”
O’Keefe to Read, 3:39 p.m. — “Karen, I don’t know.”
O’Keefe to Read, 3:39 p.m. — “You’re like jonesing to drink, so go.”
Read to O’Keefe, 3:40 p.m. — “OK, well, after how this morning went down, I don’t think being back over there with you [getting] frustrated at how I am with the kids. Has nothing to do with drinking.”
Read to O’Keefe, 3:40 p.m. — “I am paranoid now that everything I do with them is problematic. So rather see you for a minute without it — kids around.”
O’Keefe to Read, 4:47 p.m. — “What’s your plan?”
Read to O’Keefe, 4:50 p.m. — “Don’t have one.”
O’Keefe to Read, 4:50 p.m. — “So still home?”
Read to O’Keefe, 4:50 p.m. — “Yes.”
O’Keefe to Read, 4:59 p.m. — “We just got home. Waiting to see what Papa decides here, or else I have to get [my nephew] at 6.”
Read to O’Keefe, 5:01 p.m. — “Ok.”
O’Keefe to Read, 5:02 p.m. — “So are you staying home or coming here?”
Read to O’Keefe, 5:03 p.m. — “Waiting to see what you end up doing. I don’t want to hang out at the house too much, like I said.”
Read to O’Keefe, 5:04 p.m. — “I think it’s clear me [being] around with the kids around is slowly killing our relationship. And our relationship is much more important to me.”
O’Keefe to Read, 5:04 p.m. — “Well there’s a blizzard coming so we’ll be inside all weekend.”
Read to O’Keefe, 5:04 p.m. — “It will be over by noon tomorrow.”
O’Keefe to Read, 5:05 p.m. — “Don’t think so.”
Read to O’Keefe, 5:06 p.m. — “I don’t want to keep having this constant conflict of the dynamic of the four of us. The harder I try, the more it kills our relationship as a couple. It feels like utter [expletive] to be in that position. Rather just meet you all for drinks when you figure out what you’re night looks like.”
O’Keefe to Read, 5:07 p.m. — “Well I have no idea what’s going on, so do what you want.”
O’Keefe to Read, 5:09 p.m. — “Need to figure out what everyone here is doing. All I know now is [my niece’s friend] Madeline is coming over. No clue about [my nephew] yet, or if Papa is planning on hanging for a few more hours.”
Read to O’Keefe, 5:12 p.m. — “Ok, well when you know the story, and if you want me to come up, let me know.”
O’Keefe to Read, 5:13 p.m. — “No, Karen, you decide what you want to do.”
Read to O’Keefe, 5:14 p.m. — “I know your heart isn’t in this anymore. I felt it for a while and especially lately. I’m willing to try more, but not if you [are] approaching the point of indifference. If you want me to come up, and you can head out for a while, then say so when you know what your father is doing.”
O’Keefe to Read, 5:15 p.m. — “You come up and I head out. Really?”
O’Keefe to Read, 5:16 p.m. — “I’ve told you already, I don’t bounce back as quickly as you do after we have a battle.”
Read to O’Keefe, 5:17 p.m. — “No, head out together.”
Read to O’Keefe, 5:17 p.m. — “Or meet out.”
O’Keefe to Read, 5:19 p.m. — “Gonna send [my nephew] to Colin’s tonight. They’re picking him up around 7 ... So why don’t you just come over?”
Read to O’Keefe, 5:20 p.m. — “Mike [a friend] doesn’t want to go out for a bit.”
Read to O’Keefe, 5:20 p.m. — “I would like to. Been a [expletive] day from the jump.”
O’Keefe to Read, 5:20 p.m. — “Probably.”
O’Keefe to Read, 5:20 p.m. — “I just got sober an hour ago.”
Read to O’Keefe, 5:25 p.m. — “I’ll text you. Hang with Mike for a few. Don’t need to butt in. Text me if/when you think you may head out.”
Read to O’Keefe, 5:26 p.m. — “Can you send me [inaudible from reader] contact info, please?”
O’Keefe to Read, 5:27 p.m. — “I paid the last bill.”
Read to O’Keefe, 5:27 p.m. — “You didn’t have to do that. Thanks.”
Read to O’Keefe, 5:32 p.m. — “Are you really not going to accept my friend request?”
O’Keefe to Read, 5:33 p.m. — “On what FB?”
Read to O’Keefe, 5:33 p.m. — “Yeah. we’ve been going out for two years.”
O’Keefe to Read, 5:33 p.m. — “I haven’t gone on. You defriended me over a year ago, I believe.”
Read to O’Keefe, 6:05 p.m. — “Kerry texted that they’re headed out in a bit.”
O’Keefe to Read, 6:14 p.m. — “Ok.”
Read to O’Keefe, 6:17 p.m. — “She’s going to let me know where.”
O’Keefe to Read, 6:18 p.m. — “So you’re going to meet them?”
Read to O’Keefe, 6:19 p.m. — “Just presenting it as an option. Wouldn’t mind hanging out with them for a drink.
Read to O’Keefe, 6:27 p.m. — “Is Mike over?”
O’Keefe to Read, 6:29 p.m. — “Yes.”
Read to O’Keefe, 6:31 p.m. — “Sounds [like] you’re like good with getting together tonight.”
Read to O’Keefe, 6:32 p.m. — “Was hoping after this morning you’d be interested in smoothing things over with me.”
O’Keefe to Read, 6:33 p.m. — “Told you to come over, but you insisted on meeting me out somewhere.”
Read to O’Keefe, 6:34 p.m. — “Mike is a little off with me for a while now. I’ve said that multiple times.”
O’Keefe to Read, 6:38 p.m. — “Time to get over it, Karen. He’s fine. He was fine the other night when he came by.”
Read to O’Keefe, 6:39 p.m. — “Yeah, wouldn’t mind hanging out with other people. Like another female too.”
O’Keefe to Read, 6:39 p.m. — “Where are you meeting them?”
Read to O’Keefe, 6:39 p.m. — “I don’t have plans with them. She just said they’re headed out in a bit and will text when they land somewhere.”
Read to O’Keefe, 6:40 p.m. — “If you want to go out with Mike solo that’s fine. Just let me know.”
O’Keefe to Read, 6:41 p.m. — “I alreadyb told you what you should do. Not going to keep doing this.”
Read to O’Keefe, 6:43 p.m. — “I asked [you] to let me know if you guys are going to head out. I haven’t been out for drinks this week, and had a [expletive] week and a [expletive] day. And I dread [your nephew or niece are] going to get chatty with me the second I walk in, and that is going to irritate you.”
O’Keefe to Read, 6:44 p.m. — “[My nephew] is leaving. [My niece] is with Mad.”
O’Keefe to Read, 6:46 p.m. — “I’ll text Chris then.”
O’Keefe to Read, 7:06 p.m. — “We’re headed out shortly. What’s your plan, Karen?”
Read to O’Keefe, 7:06 p.m. — “Do you want me to join, or no?”
O’Keefe to Read, 7:07 p.m. — “Yes, wasn’t siure if you were meeting the Currans.”
Read to O’Keefe, 7:07 p.m. — “They are not out drinking yet.”
Read to O’Keefe, 7:09 p.m. — “Where are you headed?”
O’Keefe to Read, 7:14:48 p.m., Jan. 28: “Trying to decide. Maybe McCarthy’s.”
Read to O’Keefe, 7:21 p.m. — “Ok then, let me know where you decide. I’m still down MField [Mansfield].”
Additional text messages followed before Read met O’Keefe at McCarthy’s. Testimony resumes Friday.
Travis Andersen can be reached at travis.andersen@globe.com.
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